50 Days until 50: Day 19

Posted on June 10, 2020 by lmeceo

June 10, 2020

It’s an affirmation, not a magic spell

I’m into affirmations and do believe that you can speak things into existence.

There was a time where I would wake up everyday and say an affirmation. I would have affirmations taped to my bathroom mirror and written throughout my journal.

I did this for a few months and gave up because nothing was happening. I know now why my positive incantations weren’t instantly transforming my life.

Affirmations help to retrain our inner voice from being negative and downgrading to positive and uplifting.

What makes an affirmation work is not some supernatural natural force or fairy dust. There has to be intentional action behind the affirming words to make a positive change.

If your affirmation is that you are wealthy, you have to make choices and take actions that support building wealth.

If your affirmation is that you are enough, you have to act accordingly. Learn to say no, surround yourself with people that uplift you. Treat yourself with grace, love and respect.

I’m getting back into my daily affirmation routine, but this time I’m including action steps to support the affirmative statements.

What are some of your favorite affirmations?

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50 Days until 50: Day 20

Posted on June 9, 2020 by lmeceo

June 9, 2020

Quick rant: Facebook Dating

So I’m on Facebook Dating and would think men my age would know the basics of posting profile pictures.

One head shot (with no sunglasses or hats), one of you smiling (to show that you’re not toothless), one full body shot and no sir I don’t want to see your shirtless 40 plus body with hamburger meat, bullet wounds and a bloated beer belly.

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50 Days until 50: Day 21

Posted on June 8, 2020 by lmeceo

June 8, 2020

Attaching negativity to what I want in order to justify wanting it

When you want something do you create a negative reason to justify wanting it?

For me, this way of thinking has become automatic. I realized I had this tendency recently and I am now being intentional about changing this thought pattern.

My thought process goes something like this:

I want to be a full time blogger and writer because there’s no such thing as job security and I can get fired at anytime.

I want to be in a relationship and get married because if I get sick I won’t have anyone to take care of me.

I want a new car because I haven’t been taking good care of the car I have and it may break down on me.

I engage in this negative way of thinking because deep down inside I feel that I don’t deserve to have what I want.

Going forward I have challenged myself to state my wants without attaching negative justifications.

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50 Days until 50: Day 22

Posted on June 7, 2020 by lmeceo

June 7, 2020

Self care Sunday

It has been a trying couple of weeks. Today I focused on getting some mental rest. I listened to music and watched some of my favorite movies and tried not to think about anything.

I wanted to give my brain a break. I’ve noticed that with everything going on my mind stays racing and it’s hard for me to get a good nights sleep because my mind won’t shut off.

Self care is important, especially during times like these. It’s ok to not be “on” all the time. Take some time to shut down and reboot

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50 Days until 50: Day 23

Posted on June 6, 2020 by lmeceo

June 6, 2020

It’s time to talk

Remove the phrase I don’t see color
So we can truly see each other
And focus on what lies within and not be distracted by melanin
Our hearts beat
Our blood flows
We celebrate highs
And experience lows
More similar than different
Divided over pigment
Roots deeply planted in fear
How do we move away from here?
Understanding, respect and consideration is the only way to heal our nation
It’s time to have the conversation we’ve been avoiding for hundreds of years
It’s not going to be comfortable there will be anger, frustration and tears
But if we don’t come together nothing is going to get better
It’s time to talk

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50 Days until 50: Day 24

Posted on June 5, 2020 by lmeceo

June 5, 2020

Joy

Today I was riding in my car with the A/C on blasting my music and for a brief moment I felt happy and light. For a brief moment the weight of everything going on in the world was lifted off my chest and I could exhale.

As I was enjoying the moment, guilt tried to creep in “ how could you be singing, dancing and feeling good with everything that’s going on?” I just turned up the music until I could not longer hear my negative thoughts.

It’s ok to be happy, it’s ok to seek joy, it’s ok to have hope. We can’t allow what’s going on to overcome us with negativity and despair. For our own sanity and survival we must take time to go to our happy place and choose joy.

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50 Days until 50: Day 25

Posted on June 4, 2020 by lmeceo

June 4, 2020

I wonder

This is going to be a real short and random post.

I was listening to Super Cat’s Bad Boy remix of Dolly My Baby and in Third Eye’s verse he says “There is no way you can see me like Stevie” I thought about what that line meant and then it brought up a popular saying is “Even Stevie Wonder can see that _____”

It made me curious as to what Stevie Wonder thinks about his name being referenced in this way.

Random I know, my brain needs a reboot.

If you have no idea what song I’m talking about check out the video by clicking here

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50 Days until 50: Day 26

Posted on June 2, 2020 by lmeceo

June 3, 2020

Emotional eating

My goal was to lose 20lbs by my 50th birthday. I started in March and I was doing pretty good and then, boom! Quarantine.

Fear of the unknown, panic and one extreme change after another and I find myself confiding in my refrigerator.

Then the George Floyd murder has added another level to the range of emotions I’m already feeling.

As a recovering alcoholic I’m grateful that it’s not the bottle I choose as my therapist.

Lately I haven’t even been hungry just kind of numb and searching for something to do instead of crying.

I know that running to the fridge every time I feel discomfort is going to send me back into the 200lb range.

I have come up with some things to help me cope and stay out of the refrigerator:

  • Allow myself to cry. Crying is cleansing, it’s an emotional release
  • Write down what I’m feeling
  • Take a nap
  • Practice gratitude
  • Take a walk

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50 Days until 50: Day 27

Posted on June 2, 2020 by lmeceo

June 2, 2020

#blackouttuesday

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50 Days until 50: Day 28

Posted on May 31, 2020 by lmeceo

June 1, 2020

I got an AARP membership application and I don’t know how to feel about it

Really? I’m going to be a member of AARP (I’m joining, they have good benefits). I wasn’t expecting this until about 60-65, but I googled what age you can join AARP and 50 popes up.

Although I recently found out that there’s really no age limit to join, (they send invitations to join in the month you turn 50) the image of white haired people playing canasta at a Florida resort still comes to mind.

Receiving the AARP membership invite serves as a reminder that I am approaching the last few years of my life. If I live to be 100, I’m almost half way there.

Dramatic I know but it’s funny what these few letters invoke in me. I guess I need to learn how to play canasta.

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